He reads..
He says: Awsome !
She says : YAWWWWN!
She reads..
She says : Awesome !
He says : YAAAAAWWNNNN!
They read..
He says: Ummmm.. Good one,right?
She says: Ummm..yeah!
What's the point of all this His-hers thingie, you ask? Patience, dearies.. I 'm getting to it in a bit ;-)
A single friend was telling me how besotted she is with her new boyfriend. They've been seeing each other for a few weeks now, and she has started wondering if he is the "one". Now this is a girl who goes through 3-4 books a week and the new guy in her life supposedly groans if someone asks him what books he reads. She is chuffed that they are mad about each other , despite not having anything in common.When I insisted that there had to be something common between them, she said, "Nothing!Not a single thing.That's why I'm wondering if this is for real or just some crush." While I am super thrilled for this girl finding love and all, I am a little baffled at her statement that they have nothing in common. Is this possible ?
Well , I know love is strange , and cupid strikes at the most unexpected times, but I have been married long enough to have cynical thoughts about this one. A marriage does need some common ground to keep the couple grounded.For the first few years, passion and fights will get you through ... after that what do you talk about if you have "zero" common interests? How long can you talk about "other people" and babies and EMIs and bastard bosses?
I know some people will say,"What did our parents have in common? Aren't they happy together after gazillion years of being married?". Good point.. My parents have been married for 33 years and don't have much in common really. Yet, they are happily married and find enough topics to talk about outside their individual interests( which incidentally will have a very small intersection area if plotted on a Venn diagram). However, they belong to a generation that really saw marriage differently - it is almost like they were programmed genetically to be more accommodative and tolerant of each other. I am not too sure if our generation is wired that way. Divorce obviously is not that big a deal anymore, and as a corollary the institution of marriage not sacrosanct .
So I doubt if " Opposites attract " can really work in the long run...
What say guys? Do you think for any relationship to work there has to be common grounds or can people be as different as chalk and cheese and still manage to have crazy fun conversations together till eternity ? Or are conversations an overrated thing in marriages these days? Especially when you can head over to the nearest pub, get drunk with your couple friends and feel like you and your spouse are soul mates. My guess is even for that kind bliss to be felt, the spouse should like getting drunk. If he/she doesn't , you obviously don't have a common ground anymore !
Thank God for Steig Larsons of the world , the chap and I have "a few things" in common ! ;-)
