Wednesday, January 19

A Child called It by Dave Pelzer




Book name : A child called it
Author: Dave Pelzer
ISBN :
1558743669 (ISBN13: 9781558743663)
First published in 1992 by HCI
Genre: Memoir
My rating : 3/5


Synopsis from Goodreads

This book chronicles the unforgettable account of one of the most severe child abuse cases in California history. It is the story of Dave Pelzer, who was brutally beaten and starved by his emotionally unstable, alcoholic mother: a mother who played tortuous, unpredictable games--games that left him nearly dead. He had to learn how to play his mother's games in order to survive because she no longer considered him a son, but a slave; and no longer a boy, but an "it."

Dave's bed was an old army cot in the basement, and his clothes were torn and raunchy. When his mother allowed him the luxury of food, it was nothing more than spoiled scraps that even the dogs refused to eat. The outside world knew nothing of his living nightmare. He had nothing or no one to turn to, but his dreams kept him alive--dreams of someone taking care of him, loving him and calling him their son.

My thoughts
A child called It is by no means an easy book to read.I had read reviews about the book and had wanted to pick it up for the longest time. Now that I am done with the book,i don't know what to think about it. It is a brutal book and definitely not something I would recommend to the weak-stomached. The language is simple and the narrative linear. Dave's description of the abuse his mother puts him through is graphic and cringe inducing many times.My stomach heaved as i read about Dave's mother treating him worse than a dog by starving him and asking him to drink ammonia and other insanely inhuman things.It read like a manual on torture 101. How can someone be so inhuman to do that to her own child ,I wonder. She had to be severely damaged person .

What I also wonder about is why did it take so long for the school's management to catch up on what was wrong with a kid that routinely came into school with bruises all over him.I read elsewhere that a huge controversy was kicked up with some people accusing Dave of imagining the abuse.Whatever the truth is,I just hope that Dave has healed.
The best thing about the book ,according to me was the matter-of-fact narration .Dave story abuse and recovery has been broken up into 3 books ,when it could have been easily condensed into a single gripping book. Hope is a thread that runs through most of the book and despite the inhuman things Dave's mother puts him through,I could see his spirit shining through.

In a strange way, the more Dave's mother abused him ,the more he craved for her attention.This is something I've read about elsewhere as well as a ploy abusers make use of to make sure that the circle of abuse continues,because all he needed to do was to tell someone about his mother's abuse for his ordeal to end.
Overall,a short,gripping read.Depressing too,but definitely a book I would recommend. I'll go with a rating of 3/5 for this book and would definitely want to grab a copy of the sequel just to read about how Dave managed to put back his bad childhood behind him and forged ahead with his life.

It's also heartening to learn about Dave's efforts at educating school children about abuse by visiting schools and interacting with children. One out of five children being abused is a statistic that makes me shudder.Dave is contributing in whatever small way he can and I salute his spirit.

10 comments:

wordsndreamz said...

This is a tough book to read, but Dave's spirit is amazing. He manages to come out of all that and help others who might be in that situation..

Shocking, isn't it? The way his mother treated him? Moved me to tears!

Matangi Mawley said...

Sometimes, things such as this- leaves us with a strange emptiness. The hole it bores is so deep that it ultimately becomes impossible for us to even feel good about the life we lead and be thankful for it!

It was a difficult book. but a book to be read, nevertheless.

this is a really good blog!

Keep writing!

Misha said...

It sounds like such a heart-wrenching book. It's harder because it's real.I will add this to my TBR - Dave seems like such an inspiring and a strong person.

Madhu said...

Sounds sad but something like we should read. Will pick it up next time I see this.

I started reading Bhagavat Gita. I had been meaning to read it for years now. So, I started it. looks like I will be occupied with it for a while now.

Of course I need to pick up some light-read book too.

Bedazzled said...

words..yeah,it is shocking the way his mom treated him. What ever made her so f**cked up,i wonder !

Matangi..Welcome here.Even your comment is so poetic.Thanks for dropping by. I did feel a little numb after reading the book. It was highly unsettling.

Misha..Do read it,dear.It's scarier because you know its real.

Madhu.. Wow! Bhagavad gita.I am in awe!.Is this a translation or are you reading it in Sanskrit.I've tried reading it a few times-just too dense for my head.so share your thoughts after you are done.

Vaishnavi said...

Witnesses of War was also an extremely hard book to stomach, but I suppose some books ought to be read. They can be big reminders of what humans are capable of..

Vibha said...

OMG, can't take this kind of writing atleast for sometime. The spirits of such individuals like Dave do motivate all of us but then the details keep haunting me at odd hours.

violetcrush said...

It's such a sad book indeed. Even if I just look at the cover I can still feel the horror I felt when I read this book.

Nice Review.

Bikramjit said...

I will say it again what i have said earlier HOW do u do it ... get time to read all these books ..

man i wish i can take some time out ... :)

thanks for the review

Bikram's

Bedazzled said...

Vaishnavi..I must watch out for the book you name as well.. Thanks. Amazing,isnt it,the horrors human beings are capable of?

Vibha..Thankfully,Dave's writing isnt haunting me now.The books i read tend to have a lingering effect on me.

Violet..Thanks!.Several times,i had to stop reading because I was getting carried away with the visual imagery

Bikramji.. :-)..I work when i want to and keep hours i want to,so i have all the time in the world. For people in fulltime employment,it must be difficult to read as much as i do.