While we are done with buying most of the Aww-scho-cute baby stuff , the chap and I are undecided on the baby's sleeping quarters. We decided a while ago that the baby probably wouldn't need a nursery to itself for the first few years,decided to convert the spare room into a guest room ,went ahead and got painted it a gelusil pink.The colour is pretty hideously barbie-land and I often wonder what we were thinking when we chose that "Mera-wala pink". I don't remember having a room for myself when I was growing up, but then things were different those days and a-little-spanking-never-hurt-anyone parenting technique ruled the roost. I have had my ear twisted a few times (just before the dreaded math exams or right after the report card made an appearance at home), and other than a few strange mannerisms, I think I turned out okay. Mostly. Sometimes I am glad that I don't live in the US where some parents live in the constant fear of their offspring dialing 911 the case of a prospective... ahem...mild roughing-up episode.
But things are not that simple, are they?What if twenty years down the line the baby ends on a couch of some shrink moaning "I am a mess because my mom didn't give me my own room as a baby,and when she did give me one it was a hideous pink room. And now I have identity issues." So kind peepals and mommas who have contemplated such existential questions before please tell me this - When does a child need a room of it's own ? Now the second existential question that is giving me insomnia is this - Are cribs really a bullshit idea or what?
For the first few months of the baby's existence cribs don't make sense and that a never-ending cycle of pooping-peeing-nursing frenzy will make sure I act as the resident crib. Most people I've spoken to tell me that co-sleeping for the first few months is ideal. Some advocate installing a "Thooli". I don't know what it is called in English/Hindi , but can describe the thing for you. Its a cloth that is draped like a cocoon and hung from the ceiling. As rudimentary as it sounds , there are pre-stitched thoolis available (with hi-fi spring action) that makes life easier for mommies.No more swinging thoolis till cows come home.The problem with this option is that it they can only accommodate the baby for a few months, after which I need to think of other options.
And then there are baby bassinets and cradles.We are not keen on both because after a few months what do you do with them.. store onions and potatoes?Then there are cribs..Will toddlers still want to sleep in a crib after they learn how to crawl / roll over? And how safe are they really? The cribs I managed to find here all have some kind of a wheel attached it it and seem pretty flimsy.And they cost as much as a normal bed does , so I am wondering if it makes sense to buy one (when they will be used only for a few years). A crib ,however can be used like a play pen and be quite a life-saver ( I can get my other work done .. yay!) once the baby gets to a stage where it can amuse itself with toys. As of now , I am leaning towards the crib, but am still confused about what to do.
So much for a thesis on baby sleeping arrangements.Which leads us back to the fundamental question - "Are cribs a bullshit idea?"Mommas who have used cribs before/are using them now what do you think?
Check out this video of one of my favourite stand-up comedienne spouting wisdom on parenting.. Somebody gonna get hit real bad!
Have a super week- Bu-bye !